A marriage or any intimate relationship can be challenged by outside stress.
If you've had a bad day at work, or if your feeling overwhelmed by the challenges of earning a living these days, paying bills, and paying for college, it is a good idea to find time to share your feelings with your spouse.
Sharing these important thoughts and feelings will help your spouse feel important in your life and that their feedback really counts.
This John Gottman, PhD, scale helps you evaluate whether you and your spouse/partner are handling stress well or whether it is “spilling over” into your relationship in a negative way.
Answer the following questions:
* Do you help each other reduce the daily stress of life?
* Are you able to talk about this stress together?
* Is it helpful to both of you when you talk about these stress?
* Does your spouse/partner listen with understanding about your stress and worries?
* Do you find that your spouse/partner takes their job or other stress out on you?
* Does your spouse/partner take their job or other stress out on your children or others in your life?
So, what are you thinking about when you answer these questions.
Write down your thoughts and feelings in your journal.
Make notes of specific issues you want to talk about with your spouse.
Don’t put off having any conversation about these important issues.
Scales compliments of the Gottman Institute.
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